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A Pat on the back

Many have influenced my life and I have met many  wonderful people during my journey of life   and I owe a lot to them. My parents first, then my teachers, my husband dearest, siblings, the society around and  friends have made me what ever I am today. When it was my turn to return to the society what I have taken from, I never hesitated  and I am playing my role well to the best of my knowledge.  I have been interacting with so many people since long and  thought I could share some of my experiences here. First, I am going to share my experiences with  a little girl who came into my life and how I could influence her.

One evening, I heard the door  bell ringing in my house continuously. I opened the door and found a girl with doe eyes standing in front with her father beside.

Her father spoke. “Teacher, can you give my  daughter tuitions?”.

“Tutions !!! I exclaimed  because I never like  coaching youngsters  and was not in the habit of taking classes at home.  I was associated with various schools then and used to conduct summer camps for children. It was fun time for them and me. I was also in touch with various school counsellors who knew my work well.

I opened my mouth to say’ No’

Then the girl said ‘Miss Lee has sent me’. Lee was my friend and a  counsellor of a popular school which I used to frequent.   At that time , my phone bell rang. It was Miss Lee on line . She said ” I am sending  this girl to you. Please help her, We have just a month before the final exam” . It  was the first week of February and I know March is the month of exams for all schools.

Lee continued. ‘ this little girl needs help. If she doesn’t get through in English she would be detained. I know only you can do it”.

My God, what a situation.  My heart started melting at the poor girl who was looking very unhappy. But do I have magic to get this girl pass mark.   Some thing inside me prompted to take up the challenge. One month and miles to go. I didn’t even know anything about the girl. I heard that she hadn’t cleared  a single paper in English. OMG!!!, give  me strength, I thought.

I told her father,” this needs lot of work, from her, me and family . I can do it.   But there’s a condition. Don’t scold or shout at the girl because she is not scoring marks. See, how you can help her”. I was very sure she was getting lot of dressing down at home. The  girl was looking very scared. I said ” see we don’t have time. She has to attend my sessions morning and evening and they agreed.

Thus started the marathon of studies. I told her to study the notes and text all by her self and decided to concentrate only on  Grammar , if she gets all grammar right she would be able to score 20-25 marks. I taught her  and gave her repetitive excercises.  I, first  fixed a target for her and we decided that it would be 60 marks. I was sure she won’t be able to go beyond that. This girl co-operated well , and as days rolled by she became more cheerful and enthusiastic to learn English. When she came,  I would make her repeat the target.  I would also pat her back and assure her all would be well. She started enjoying the classes .

I also made her repeat at bed time a mantra that “English is more and more interesting for me and I am going to pass”. I  knew she didn’t like English because she had never got  pass marks  in that subject.  I wanted her to motivate herself to  achieve the results.

Days passed…… she wrote her exams. I was sure she would have done well. Results came. I phoned  her house , the girl picked up the phone.

I asked her “did you pass?

She said “I passed in English and got 57”

Wow!!, great. I was elated but the next sentence  shook me.

She said “but….. I am detained .

What ??? I was shocked .

I failed in Maths so the school has detained my promotion”. I was aghast.  She came home and broke down. She was weak in Maths too and she was attending a maths tution. H0w she found time for all this I do not know.

She said .”From this class I went to Maths  class and when ever I made mistakes the teacher would tell me  that I  would never pass in Maths. I got only scoldings there”

Probably the negative attitude of the teacher,  shattered her confidence. I am not sure but I wished that teacher could have had a better understanding of child psychology than what she showed.

She wanted to continue the tutions with me but I organised another one for her as I was averse to it.

But luckily for this girl, the school agreed to promote her on one condition that she should leave the school. What a system!!! But the girl was happy, she joined another school and continued her studies with out losing a year.  She  performed very  well in a changed environment.  This  girl would have grown up now and I hope she is doing well.

I shall write similar posts in future , how a small pat, a word of appreciation and  a little support can change somebody’s life.   To do all this, I don’t think we need to put in great efforts. Only an inclination to share and empathise with others who are facing difficulties. I wish, those who  take to teaching would have passion for their jobs and only remember that they are handling delicate children who are our future.

Merry Christmas , dear friends.

Au revoir!!


These Things Matter A lot

When I became a blogger a couple of months back I had doubts how my blogs would be viewed by others. But slowly and steadily my blog is getting a good readership. Recognition is very important for a person and it is coming my way and I know I have a long way to go.This is only a beginning.

First I received the Indus Ladies finest blog award for the month of July followed by Parentree’s grand prize for the summer vacation blog . I also got a 70/100 rank from Indi Blogger. Now it is the the International Bloggers Community Award and the Lemonade Blog award given to me by “Shivya” . I thank her for the same. It’s awards galore for me. I am really honored.

My son is also a blogger and he is the one who encouraged me to write blogs. A great hug for you my dear!. He, the Taste Master is also receiving various rewards for his blogs on Chennai burpp.com and I am adding to it by passing on this Lemonade blog Award and International Bloggers Community Award to “Tastemaster” for his wonderful contribution on food reviews. I am also passing it on to “Petals” for her lovely book reviews and thought provoking blogs.

It is not the material rewards that is attractive but the appreciation , words of praise, the pats on the back, the hugs etc.are more motivating.This however may vary from person to person’s perspective and could also could vary depending on the situation and circumstances one is in.

I thank all my well wishers and those who have encouraged me through their comments and criticisms which helped me look at things from a different angle.

Thanks once again!