This is a sequel to my earlier post and again the topic is on violence. When I posted ” Teach them to Love “, by co incidence there was a similar article in an English daily. But here the victims were parents. I wonder why I keep bumping into these kind of things or such news items. These things always leaves a bitter taste in my mouth.

Have you heard of children bashing up parents, especially mothers because they happen to be at home and are at the receiving end very often. When I read the news I was shocked. I have heard of verbal aggression but this was something unheard of.

A girl child when she was refused permission by her mother to get out of the house ended up lashing out, kicking and pulling her mother’s hair which left the mother shaken and crying and the girl guilty once the battle was over.

I think it took place in a foreign land.The mother of the child feeling helpless had to seek the help of an outside agency Parents help line. The survey conducted by them is sufficient to suggest that 30% children in the age group of 13-15 resort to physical aggression. Many parents are afraid to report such things and suffer silently. This particular agency regularly gets distress calls from helpless parents.

I felt it was a ridiculous situation for the parent to be in and expect to call an external agency to solve ones problems when all this could have been done with a little understanding, care and love. But when things get out of control and parents fail to tackle the same a third party may help them to work out things better.

Why do children become violent? Are they rebelling against the diktats, or Are they are giving back the the same treatment that is meted out to them? I believe it is more of the second one as when the child is young it suffers and bears the pain when stronger parent uses force but on growing up when the same child realises it has equal strength if not more, in its sub consious mind it believes it is alright to use force to get even if it is against its own parents who on becoming old tend to become physically weak.

We are speaking of Influence of TV and films. If the atmosphere at home is one that of harmony and peace will not the child respect the same? All these incidents perturb me and I believe it defies any logic. A neighbour of mine keeps nagging her child day in and out who is just into the 5th standard, Will that child have peace at home? Will he be happy? He may keep all the reactions bottled up now as he is young but when he grows up, will he not retaliate?. Many fail to understand that life is like a boomerang whatever thoughts, actions one puts in, it comes back with the same speed and frequency to hit back.

Only silver lining for this post is physical abuse of parents is not happening in our society (?) or so I would like to believe. My only worry is when the present generation is aping the western life style will they resort to physical abuse of parents to have their way? Let God save us from the perils of violence.

Om Shanti!

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